Loving Me

Hi Ladies,

I know it's been a while but I needed to share this one.
There's not a day that goes by that I here someone talk about all the bad things that are happening in their life. I know that we all go through some rough times but DAMN!! Ladies how about we celebrate Life! And while doing so celebrate that life and spirit of Christ that lives within you. Thank GOD for waking up this morning with the ability to breathe fresh air, eat a meal and be fully clothed. Thank God for keeping you sane through these times because if you are able to talk about it you can do something to change it. I know that change doesn't come over night but it starts on the inside and works its way up to the mind to bring to the outside. So keep your inside clean and full of love and enjoy yourself Darnit! lol

Repeat this daily if you feel its necessary.........

Loving ME

I'm in love with me
Are you?
I'm happy with me
Are you?
I know what's good and bad about me
Do you?
I love the reflection I see
Do you?
I'm fulfilling God's will for me
Are you?
I take my challenges head on
Do You?
I'm still pressing
Are you?
I acknowledge and accept my flaws
Can you?
I like the changes I see
Do you?
I only allow things like me, around me
Do you?
I celebrate me daily
Do you?
I love me!!!!!
And GOD does too..
Erica (c) 2009
If nobody else told you today, "I love you too"
Toodles :)
Alex not Plastic

Baby Mama's guide to Dating! Your help is needed.

Hello All,

I know its been awhile but I've been staying busy (Praise God). But although I've been busy I have tried to remain true to my commitments (promises) to GOD. I have become less of a slacker and have actually stayed on a schedule (thanks to DJ). I have tried my best to attend bible study and church regularly and called mostly all my clients back when I'm supposed to (and as a working real estate agent that's hard:)



In the meantime, yes in the meantime. I can't keep my thoughts of wanting someone to share my in the meantime moments with.
Hey, I'm only human and no one wants to be lonely. I have been claiming to be happily single for over a year now. Recently I met a new guy that wooed me enough to give him my number. Yes, I said wooed.
I spend most of my free time with my son and trust me he keeps me busy but I can't help but feel like maybe it's time for me to start dating again.

But I'm scared. Yes scared.
Due to the fact that I'm a mom and I kinda don't know how to do both without leaving one feeling neglected.

Of course, I refuse to neglect my child but how do you do both?
According to my daily schedule, I'm up between 8-8:30 a.m. preparing breakfast and bathing myself and my son. We usually don't leave home until 9:30-10:00ish.
Drop him off at daycare and make it to the office or my first appointment by 10:30-11 a.m.
From this point on I'm running, processing or Facebooking until it's time to pick up DJ from his dad's around 5-6p.m.
We generally eat dinner around 7-7:30. I watch my shows from 8-9:30 and I'm usually sleep by 10:30.

So I need your help???

How am I supposed to date??????
How long should you date before introducing your new boo to your child?
Being a cautious woman and mother, how long before you let him come over to your home before introducing the kid? Should this happen simultaneously?
Should the ex know when you introduce them?

Seriously ladies, I need your help and if I publish this as a self-help guide in the future I promise to throw you a lil something, something. lol.

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Grown Woman

Another FWD: I found in my box. Enjoy

Grown Women
Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.

Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.

Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.

Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.

Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.

Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.

Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.

Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.

Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.

Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'.

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that was just one man.

Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object

Girl quit playing yourself

Hello All,

Okay so I know we have all received a call from a girlfriend whom wanted to put the guy she's with on blast because he didn't do something or just isn't living up to her expectations. As she goes on and on about how bad and good for nothing he is, you continue to hold the phone and agree with her while thinking to yourself "why are you even with him."

I've been that girl on both sides of the phone and I guess none of those relationships worked out as planned because I"M STILL SINGLE!

Anywho, as I watch some of my favorite shows, "The Game, For the love of Ray J, Divorce court, The Hills, Harlem Heights and that new show that comes on MTV with Tyler and Jasmine," I came to the conclusion that we as women are playing ourselves nowadays because we have low expectations for relationships and some of us frown when our family brings up marriage. When did getting married become a bad thing.

And guess what I'm tired of this!

I hear guys talk about how chivalry is dead but who killed it? Did we as women wake up one morning and say I don't want a GENTLEMEN? I don't want someone who doesn't care if he shows how much he cares for me. I don't want a man that wants to take me out to dinner or will watch a mushy movie with me. Shit! yeah I said it Shit, I didn't and I want it back.

I have never jumped on the "Ms. Independent" bandwagon (note that there's no MRS. in front of independent). I have always expected what I should be given. Sure I've had a couple of temps but even they had to do a little courting.

I'm approaching 30..ooh I hate to say that..But yes 30 and women should not expect the 8th grade relationships past high school.

In one of my relationships, I found myself giving way more than was given but he declared to my friend that he was a "taker", so you know how that ended.

I'm just a little upset about how the "game" has changed and we are giving more and expecting less. I'm tired of hearing all the complaints about how he don't do this or don't do that! How was he supposed to know if you didn't set standards?

I want to start hearing GREAT things about how he did this or that unexpectedly. You know like the love stories that we all read and get excited by what the man in the book did for his girls.

You know, "if you got some call me," because I need some inspiration for my books and short stories. That way that moment will be captured for you to enjoy again later.

Girls we have to start doing some reprogramming these men because all they know is she look good and the sex was okay for the moment- next dummy!

So the next time you're girlfriend calls you, I want you to either send her to my blog or tell her "Girl quit playing yourself, he may be cute and good in bed but he ain't the last man left.

Toodles,

Alex not plastic

Woman to Woman Be lifted!

Hi Ladies,
I received this letter a while ago from my friend and I just thought I would share this with you. Enjoy
Girl, just look at you with your pretty self. You are so beautiful! Not only are you beautiful but you have the nerve to be talented and gifted by God. Hold your head up girl and know that you are loved and appreciated. Don't give the enemy any place to cause you to have low self-esteem or doubt. You are indeed fearfully and wonderfully made. This is your year to decree it and speak it! This is the year of new beginnings. So, get your step on girl God is faithful to perform all that He has promised to you! Be confident in Him and His word. The words you speak from your mouth determine your outcome. Why not speak good and positive things over your life girl? You are not defeated but rather you are more than a conqueror. You have been through a lot in your life and look at you now, just as pretty and as strong as ever! Oh, how blessed you are. Look what God has done and look where He has brought you from. Begin to bless God and praise Him for all that He has done, and for making you so beautiful! He had you in His precious hands all the time. Your life is orchestrated by Him. He knows you and what is best for you. Believe that He has even greater things in store for you and your family. Girl, get over the silly stuff and grab hold of faith. Seek God as never before. Sure, times are hard but God is Good! Learn to love who He has made you to be. There is no one like you.
Enjoy Jesus and enjoy life girl!I wrote this especially for you (with your beautiful self)~Author Unknown~If by chance you are already encouraged in this area of your life, feel free to lift the next woman up.Walk in your blessed day

Handbags or Shoes..Life accessories are harder to choose!

Good Morning Bunch :)

Well I hope its a good morning because I had quite a night tossing and turning all because I was so anxious to figure out what I would blog about today. As you can see I came up with "Handbags or Shoes..Life accesssories are much harder to choose."

I used to be a model but then again I still am. Anywho, I would wake up everyday 2 hours early because I knew that it would take me 75% of that time to figure out what I would wear and what handbag and shoes I would put together with my outfit. Boy oh Boy sometimes I would just sit in the middle of the floor until I had a vision in which I would see my whole outfit all together and then I would ramble through my junky closet to find the pieces to bring that vision to life.
Now shopping for clothing has always been easy. I kinda always knew what I wanted and where to go to get it. Most of my friends have heard about my "clothing visions" and I'm not crazy. However, shopping for shoes was never easy. I never had a vision of the shoes I would walk into stores and turn right back around because I just could'nt find the right shoes. I don't have the prettiest feet so sandal shopping was a not so happy time for me. When shopping for shoes I always wanted to find a pair of shoes that I could wear with more than one outfit. Sometimes I would make sure that I had 2 or 3 outfits to wear with those shoes more than once the week that I purchased them. Call it what you want but I always wanted to get my monies worth.
Handbags.Purses. Handbags. Purses. Ooh how I love them. But I won't spend over $20 for one. LOL! I have never owned a Coach, Dooney &Burke, or Prada bag. I like to buy the Whatchamacallit bags. You know the unique bags that were made just for me..or someone else with my taste. I also but the bags from Rainbows and Charlotte Russe because they're cute and I can wear them more than once.

Unique. More than Once. Thats my life theme for shopping, relationships and life accessories.
When I think about all the time I spend doing miscellaneous things just to get ahead, I find myself wondering why haven't I found that unique thing that I love to do just yet.
I know I love writing but I do this in my "leisure" time. Why haven't I honestly committed to doing this full time. Well, my one answer was money but didn't God say that if I was to trust in him that I would receive this and the abundant overflow. My friend convinced me that this is what I was put here for because nothing else makes me happier. So I'm commiting to doing it daily until I finish my book.

So Girl let me tell you, that handbags and shoes are great if you can use them more than once but when you find that one life accessory that makes you happy find a way to commit to it and GOD will handle the rest.

Toodles,
Alex not Plastic