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Friday, April 17, 2009
Grown Woman
Another FWD: I found in my box. Enjoy
Grown Women
Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.
Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.
Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.
Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.
Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.
Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.
Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.
Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.
Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.
Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'.
Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that was just one man.
Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object
Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.
Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.
Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.
Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.
Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.
Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.
Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.
Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.
Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.
Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'.
Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that was just one man.
Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object
Girl quit playing yourself
Hello All,
Okay so I know we have all received a call from a girlfriend whom wanted to put the guy she's with on blast because he didn't do something or just isn't living up to her expectations. As she goes on and on about how bad and good for nothing he is, you continue to hold the phone and agree with her while thinking to yourself "why are you even with him."
I've been that girl on both sides of the phone and I guess none of those relationships worked out as planned because I"M STILL SINGLE!
Anywho, as I watch some of my favorite shows, "The Game, For the love of Ray J, Divorce court, The Hills, Harlem Heights and that new show that comes on MTV with Tyler and Jasmine," I came to the conclusion that we as women are playing ourselves nowadays because we have low expectations for relationships and some of us frown when our family brings up marriage. When did getting married become a bad thing.
And guess what I'm tired of this!
I hear guys talk about how chivalry is dead but who killed it? Did we as women wake up one morning and say I don't want a GENTLEMEN? I don't want someone who doesn't care if he shows how much he cares for me. I don't want a man that wants to take me out to dinner or will watch a mushy movie with me. Shit! yeah I said it Shit, I didn't and I want it back.
I have never jumped on the "Ms. Independent" bandwagon (note that there's no MRS. in front of independent). I have always expected what I should be given. Sure I've had a couple of temps but even they had to do a little courting.
I'm approaching 30..ooh I hate to say that..But yes 30 and women should not expect the 8th grade relationships past high school.
In one of my relationships, I found myself giving way more than was given but he declared to my friend that he was a "taker", so you know how that ended.
I'm just a little upset about how the "game" has changed and we are giving more and expecting less. I'm tired of hearing all the complaints about how he don't do this or don't do that! How was he supposed to know if you didn't set standards?
I want to start hearing GREAT things about how he did this or that unexpectedly. You know like the love stories that we all read and get excited by what the man in the book did for his girls.
You know, "if you got some call me," because I need some inspiration for my books and short stories. That way that moment will be captured for you to enjoy again later.
Girls we have to start doing some reprogramming these men because all they know is she look good and the sex was okay for the moment- next dummy!
So the next time you're girlfriend calls you, I want you to either send her to my blog or tell her "Girl quit playing yourself, he may be cute and good in bed but he ain't the last man left.
Toodles,
Alex not plastic
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Woman to Woman Be lifted!
Hi Ladies,
I received this letter a while ago from my friend and I just thought I would share this with you. Enjoy
Girl, just look at you with your pretty self. You are so beautiful! Not only are you beautiful but you have the nerve to be talented and gifted by God. Hold your head up girl and know that you are loved and appreciated. Don't give the enemy any place to cause you to have low self-esteem or doubt. You are indeed fearfully and wonderfully made. This is your year to decree it and speak it! This is the year of new beginnings. So, get your step on girl God is faithful to perform all that He has promised to you! Be confident in Him and His word. The words you speak from your mouth determine your outcome. Why not speak good and positive things over your life girl? You are not defeated but rather you are more than a conqueror. You have been through a lot in your life and look at you now, just as pretty and as strong as ever! Oh, how blessed you are. Look what God has done and look where He has brought you from. Begin to bless God and praise Him for all that He has done, and for making you so beautiful! He had you in His precious hands all the time. Your life is orchestrated by Him. He knows you and what is best for you. Believe that He has even greater things in store for you and your family. Girl, get over the silly stuff and grab hold of faith. Seek God as never before. Sure, times are hard but God is Good! Learn to love who He has made you to be. There is no one like you.
Enjoy Jesus and enjoy life girl!I wrote this especially for you (with your beautiful self)~Author Unknown~If by chance you are already encouraged in this area of your life, feel free to lift the next woman up.Walk in your blessed day
I received this letter a while ago from my friend and I just thought I would share this with you. Enjoy
Girl, just look at you with your pretty self. You are so beautiful! Not only are you beautiful but you have the nerve to be talented and gifted by God. Hold your head up girl and know that you are loved and appreciated. Don't give the enemy any place to cause you to have low self-esteem or doubt. You are indeed fearfully and wonderfully made. This is your year to decree it and speak it! This is the year of new beginnings. So, get your step on girl God is faithful to perform all that He has promised to you! Be confident in Him and His word. The words you speak from your mouth determine your outcome. Why not speak good and positive things over your life girl? You are not defeated but rather you are more than a conqueror. You have been through a lot in your life and look at you now, just as pretty and as strong as ever! Oh, how blessed you are. Look what God has done and look where He has brought you from. Begin to bless God and praise Him for all that He has done, and for making you so beautiful! He had you in His precious hands all the time. Your life is orchestrated by Him. He knows you and what is best for you. Believe that He has even greater things in store for you and your family. Girl, get over the silly stuff and grab hold of faith. Seek God as never before. Sure, times are hard but God is Good! Learn to love who He has made you to be. There is no one like you.
Enjoy Jesus and enjoy life girl!I wrote this especially for you (with your beautiful self)~Author Unknown~If by chance you are already encouraged in this area of your life, feel free to lift the next woman up.Walk in your blessed day
Handbags or Shoes..Life accessories are harder to choose!
Good Morning Bunch :)
Well I hope its a good morning because I had quite a night tossing and turning all because I was so anxious to figure out what I would blog about today. As you can see I came up with "Handbags or Shoes..Life accesssories are much harder to choose."
I used to be a model but then again I still am. Anywho, I would wake up everyday 2 hours early because I knew that it would take me 75% of that time to figure out what I would wear and what handbag and shoes I would put together with my outfit. Boy oh Boy sometimes I would just sit in the middle of the floor until I had a vision in which I would see my whole outfit all together and then I would ramble through my junky closet to find the pieces to bring that vision to life.
Now shopping for clothing has always been easy. I kinda always knew what I wanted and where to go to get it. Most of my friends have heard about my "clothing visions" and I'm not crazy. However, shopping for shoes was never easy. I never had a vision of the shoes I would walk into stores and turn right back around because I just could'nt find the right shoes. I don't have the prettiest feet so sandal shopping was a not so happy time for me. When shopping for shoes I always wanted to find a pair of shoes that I could wear with more than one outfit. Sometimes I would make sure that I had 2 or 3 outfits to wear with those shoes more than once the week that I purchased them. Call it what you want but I always wanted to get my monies worth.
Handbags.Purses. Handbags. Purses. Ooh how I love them. But I won't spend over $20 for one. LOL! I have never owned a Coach, Dooney &Burke, or Prada bag. I like to buy the Whatchamacallit bags. You know the unique bags that were made just for me..or someone else with my taste. I also but the bags from Rainbows and Charlotte Russe because they're cute and I can wear them more than once.
Unique. More than Once. Thats my life theme for shopping, relationships and life accessories.
When I think about all the time I spend doing miscellaneous things just to get ahead, I find myself wondering why haven't I found that unique thing that I love to do just yet.
I know I love writing but I do this in my "leisure" time. Why haven't I honestly committed to doing this full time. Well, my one answer was money but didn't God say that if I was to trust in him that I would receive this and the abundant overflow. My friend convinced me that this is what I was put here for because nothing else makes me happier. So I'm commiting to doing it daily until I finish my book.
So Girl let me tell you, that handbags and shoes are great if you can use them more than once but when you find that one life accessory that makes you happy find a way to commit to it and GOD will handle the rest.
Toodles,
Alex not Plastic
Well I hope its a good morning because I had quite a night tossing and turning all because I was so anxious to figure out what I would blog about today. As you can see I came up with "Handbags or Shoes..Life accesssories are much harder to choose."
I used to be a model but then again I still am. Anywho, I would wake up everyday 2 hours early because I knew that it would take me 75% of that time to figure out what I would wear and what handbag and shoes I would put together with my outfit. Boy oh Boy sometimes I would just sit in the middle of the floor until I had a vision in which I would see my whole outfit all together and then I would ramble through my junky closet to find the pieces to bring that vision to life.
Now shopping for clothing has always been easy. I kinda always knew what I wanted and where to go to get it. Most of my friends have heard about my "clothing visions" and I'm not crazy. However, shopping for shoes was never easy. I never had a vision of the shoes I would walk into stores and turn right back around because I just could'nt find the right shoes. I don't have the prettiest feet so sandal shopping was a not so happy time for me. When shopping for shoes I always wanted to find a pair of shoes that I could wear with more than one outfit. Sometimes I would make sure that I had 2 or 3 outfits to wear with those shoes more than once the week that I purchased them. Call it what you want but I always wanted to get my monies worth.
Handbags.Purses. Handbags. Purses. Ooh how I love them. But I won't spend over $20 for one. LOL! I have never owned a Coach, Dooney &Burke, or Prada bag. I like to buy the Whatchamacallit bags. You know the unique bags that were made just for me..or someone else with my taste. I also but the bags from Rainbows and Charlotte Russe because they're cute and I can wear them more than once.
Unique. More than Once. Thats my life theme for shopping, relationships and life accessories.
When I think about all the time I spend doing miscellaneous things just to get ahead, I find myself wondering why haven't I found that unique thing that I love to do just yet.
I know I love writing but I do this in my "leisure" time. Why haven't I honestly committed to doing this full time. Well, my one answer was money but didn't God say that if I was to trust in him that I would receive this and the abundant overflow. My friend convinced me that this is what I was put here for because nothing else makes me happier. So I'm commiting to doing it daily until I finish my book.
So Girl let me tell you, that handbags and shoes are great if you can use them more than once but when you find that one life accessory that makes you happy find a way to commit to it and GOD will handle the rest.
Toodles,
Alex not Plastic
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Recession.Depression.Life lessons. Girl let me tell you
Hello All
Its 2009 and Obama is Preseident. Yeah! But we are in some of the worst times says reporters but haven't we always been. Lots of people are calling this a recession, in fact Jeezy made a song about it that took a while for people to catch on to but ITS Here.
As we are all going through trying times I just want to talk about the trials being set ups for great verdicts for our people.
In 2007 I found out that I would be a mommy. I had the new mommy jitters because I just knew that I couldn't do it because I wasn't ready but I also knew that I could not turn back on my promise to God. So I accepted my pregnancy and started to think about some changes that I would need to make for my future. I decided that I would come up with "my own plan" which ended up being a diaster because 1 year earlier I had given my life over to Christ and asked to be saved but I reverted back to "living in the flesh." But I'm not going to go holy on you...yet :)
The next year was rough because I was becoming a different person with an unclean heart without God as my center.
My love arrived and things got worse. I was struggling with my identity. I was struggling with my goals. And now I had a new bundle of joy that I didnt want to be raised by a daycare so I decided to make some career changes.
This is where my recession and depression happened. But God sent a friend my way that would lead me towards my new beginning.
It wasn't easy.
I tumbled. I fell.
I ran. I lost.
I gave. I lost.
I cried. I smiled.
I loved. I hurt.
I shattered relationships. BUT then I got up again.
And this is when the news finally announced that AmErica was in a recession.
Getting up was not easy and I'm still trying to find my balance. This is when my life lessons started to happen.
I realized that I had some work to do. I needed to become better in my finances- which to me meant paying bills on time. I needed to really focus on my work because I was slowly becoming one of those "lazy agents" that my clients tell me about. I needed to take a second look on all of my healthy and unhealthy relationships. My network of positive, inspirational people had become shorter than 3 years prior. My family relationships had been strained so I had to work on my forgiving heart because I know that I am the center of all the positive changes surrounding my family. My friends were short and few and I realized that this may be for the best because everyone is not meant to stay for eternity.
My love life..Whoops I wont go there...It's just not happening but I fine because I'm loving the new me and my baby.
That was my 2008.
I said all of this to say that CHANGE! Yes CHANGE! needs to happen in order for you to move to the next level of Progression.
Now back to Obama. Yeah! We are all happy that he is in office but- let's not put it all on him to solve. Now is the time for Change and I'm not just saying that.
Now is the time to do a flashback on your life and acknowledge the things that once worked for you and the things that didn't and do some springing ahead or spring cleaning.
As I look back at my life, I'm glad that I had experienced the good and bad because those experiences have given me clarification on what I can and MUST do to get to where I'm going.
I'm moving forward in this recession and my depression is NO LONGER so girl let me tell you, We've all got some work to do!
Toodles,
Alex Not Plastic
Its 2009 and Obama is Preseident. Yeah! But we are in some of the worst times says reporters but haven't we always been. Lots of people are calling this a recession, in fact Jeezy made a song about it that took a while for people to catch on to but ITS Here.
As we are all going through trying times I just want to talk about the trials being set ups for great verdicts for our people.
In 2007 I found out that I would be a mommy. I had the new mommy jitters because I just knew that I couldn't do it because I wasn't ready but I also knew that I could not turn back on my promise to God. So I accepted my pregnancy and started to think about some changes that I would need to make for my future. I decided that I would come up with "my own plan" which ended up being a diaster because 1 year earlier I had given my life over to Christ and asked to be saved but I reverted back to "living in the flesh." But I'm not going to go holy on you...yet :)
The next year was rough because I was becoming a different person with an unclean heart without God as my center.
My love arrived and things got worse. I was struggling with my identity. I was struggling with my goals. And now I had a new bundle of joy that I didnt want to be raised by a daycare so I decided to make some career changes.
This is where my recession and depression happened. But God sent a friend my way that would lead me towards my new beginning.
It wasn't easy.
I tumbled. I fell.
I ran. I lost.
I gave. I lost.
I cried. I smiled.
I loved. I hurt.
I shattered relationships. BUT then I got up again.
And this is when the news finally announced that AmErica was in a recession.
Getting up was not easy and I'm still trying to find my balance. This is when my life lessons started to happen.
I realized that I had some work to do. I needed to become better in my finances- which to me meant paying bills on time. I needed to really focus on my work because I was slowly becoming one of those "lazy agents" that my clients tell me about. I needed to take a second look on all of my healthy and unhealthy relationships. My network of positive, inspirational people had become shorter than 3 years prior. My family relationships had been strained so I had to work on my forgiving heart because I know that I am the center of all the positive changes surrounding my family. My friends were short and few and I realized that this may be for the best because everyone is not meant to stay for eternity.
My love life..Whoops I wont go there...It's just not happening but I fine because I'm loving the new me and my baby.
That was my 2008.
I said all of this to say that CHANGE! Yes CHANGE! needs to happen in order for you to move to the next level of Progression.
Now back to Obama. Yeah! We are all happy that he is in office but- let's not put it all on him to solve. Now is the time for Change and I'm not just saying that.
Now is the time to do a flashback on your life and acknowledge the things that once worked for you and the things that didn't and do some springing ahead or spring cleaning.
As I look back at my life, I'm glad that I had experienced the good and bad because those experiences have given me clarification on what I can and MUST do to get to where I'm going.
I'm moving forward in this recession and my depression is NO LONGER so girl let me tell you, We've all got some work to do!
Toodles,
Alex Not Plastic
Hello All! Its been a while but this is my calling so im back at it.
Hi. My name is Erica- But you can call me Alex not plastic..lol. If thats too much for you just call me Erica as most of my friends do. Its been a while since I have blogged. I used to be so addicted to blogging. I would literally spend all day and night on Myspace( which is so old and lame now.FB baby) blogging with friends and streaming some of my writings.
As I sit here, I am getting a rush because I have not done the thing I lovein so long and this may have been the thing that has been missing in my life for the last 3 years. WOW! I've already had a revelation.
Anywho. Join me as I get back to my craft in my episodes/tell all blogs of "Girl Let me Tell you"
Toodles,
Alex not Plastic :)
As I sit here, I am getting a rush because I have not done the thing I lovein so long and this may have been the thing that has been missing in my life for the last 3 years. WOW! I've already had a revelation.
Anywho. Join me as I get back to my craft in my episodes/tell all blogs of "Girl Let me Tell you"
Toodles,
Alex not Plastic :)
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